I’ve been married twice, and divorced twice—to the same woman! What were the problems? Well, she is not here, or online much anyway, and so I don’t go into it because there are always TWO sides to anything. Let’s just say the “covenant” was broken. So what does that mean?

Marriage is a covenant before God, think of it as a legal contract with all the stipulations that are part of it. This contract is written upon the “body” or “flesh” of the marriage. Sounds strange doesn’t it? Well it’s not, we are supposed to be ONE body or flesh before the Lord. We are suppose to be in unity, in our beliefs, in our actions, in our worship, and in our walk of faith. In other words God looks upon marriage as if He is looking upon one person. This does not negate our unique relationship with Him as individuals, in fact it should enhance it.

So in the world what happens if you break your contract? You nullify or destroy it. There are specifically outlined remedies to that happening—with God it is the same. Your covenant is 3-ways, it is to God and to each other. When the covenant (or contract) is broken God says you are “no longer equally yoked”. My interpretation? No. It states in II Corinthians 6:14 “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”

But this is marriage NOT about faith and beliefs! Wrong, it is.

If you believe, and walk in that belief, you would not break your covenant before God. If you believe, and walk in that belief, you would not decide to do the things God told you NOT to do in marriage. If you believe, and walk in that belief, you would find an understanding of God wants you to DO in that marriage AND do it. If not, then you have broken the covenant before God and your spouse, because of your UN-belief.

Am I reaching here? Not really. Some say that only adultery is an acceptable reason for divorce. Ok, I could effectively, and scripturally supported as well, argue against that point. But for arguments’ sake let’s say that is true. What is the definition of adultery? Anything that adulterates, disrupts, damages, modifies, changes, or derails, something that is specifically outlined or detailed in function, use, being and/or expression. Jazz is considered “adulterated” music because of the inherent “dissonance” of it’s melodies.

If you believe and then don’t, or you know the covenant or contract specifics and don’t follow them, you have adulterated (see above definitions, we’ll use change) the contract. In so doing you have nullified it and made it no longer binding. This then will be just cause to divorce. Infidelity is not just expressed sexually. And that is the crux of the whole thing, and the meaning behind being “equally yoked”.

Fidelty to God and each other.

So when I viewed what was taking place, I tried every venue to heal the breach. It is truly said you can only change YOU and no one else—no matter how hard you try. So our marriage concluded to the obvious end, one I did not desire. But my fidelity to God was the most important. How can one justify losing God to retain a person in one’s life? You can’t, and I won’t. If you are of ONE flesh, then that would never be an experience you should go through, it just doesn’t come up, because of BOTH’s fidelity and love to God, and each other.

So there is no judgement except God’s. There is no condemnation except God’s. There is no recourse except God’s …. and I would not desire to gainsay Him or change what He has commanded.

In doing so we sit in God’s judgement seat, and we should never sit THERE!

Be blessed, be loved and be at peace,

Jonathan

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